I am married to my diabetes. Yep. Married to it.
No seriously, diabetes and I go back many years. We met when I was only four years old and have been together ever since (38 years). In today’s world, that is a long time. And we will be together till death do us part, or until they find a cure for diabetes. Even then, I would still be connected to my partner.
My gut says it was an arranged marriage. Someone up above thought we were meant to be together. And now that I have had plenty of time to get to know diabetes, I tend to agree. We are a pretty cool couple. While I did not necessarily choose diabetes, the arrangement has worked well for both of us. I love my diabetes. And my diabetes loves me.
Like most marriages, diabetes and I have a very tight bond/union. In fact, we are together 24/7. How many couples can say that? And even though we know each other very well (we should, given the time spent together), he still likes to surprise me. Those unexpected low blood sugars, those amazing days where I do not even feel like a diabetic, the unanticipated high blood sugars, the major accomplishments with diabetes, and the just down and out crazy days. Yet, no matter what, we stick together. Through sickness and health, thick and thin, we are bonded.
And the bond comes from love and respect. I have learned over the years, that diabetes is my companion. And in being my life long companion, I need to respect and love my diabetes. Isn’t that what everyone wants in a marriage? I do. (yes, I do, I do).
I do because love and respect makes me feel good. When I love and respect someone I feel good about that. And when they reciprocate, I feel double good. It is a win – win situation. So I do it. I love and respect my diabetes by taking care of myself – testing my blood sugar, exercising, eating right, and resting. And in turn my diabetes loves and respects me back.
Now, there are moments when even though we love each other, things go haywire. That is true in any marriage. No marriage is perfect. Never let anyone convince you of that. There will be “moments”.
For example, I may want to eat some Ben and Jerry’s Ice Cream. I am thinking “God, that sounds good, let’s go for it”. My diabetes might be thinking “Ahhh…No…You do not need ice cream. It is not good for you.” As a loving spouse, my diabetes is trying to protect me from what he views is a mistake.
My vision is different. I am dreaming about ice cream. Not focusing on the effect it will have on my blood sugar. Ice cream, ice cream, ice cream.
Yet, the decision is mine. In marriage, the bond and partnership can be so wonderful, but we are still two individuals. Two separate entities that weave together in a magical way. At some points the weave may be stronger than others. It just depends on the moment. The day. But it is always there.
Diabetes tests me too. Literally and figuratively. Waking up with a 300 blood sugar out of the blue. What the heck? Why? Oh, that frustrates me at first. I try so hard to work and communicate with my diabetes. Doing everything I am suppose to do, and we still have those moments. Is he trying to remind me that I am married to him – diabetes? Having some sort of void in communication skills? Or is he just having a down day and unable to control the blood sugar?
That is when the marriage is truly tested. Can we make it through the good times and the bad times? Yes and yes. The bad times bring us closer together. If we can survive the bad times than the good times will be a piece of cake (or fruit for us diabetics).
Seriously though. The “bad” or what I like to call challenging times strengthen us as a couple. The bond and loves gets even deeper. It’s a good thing. I love how two different individuals can put aside differences and unite into one. Working together as a team every single day.
And I don’t even have to explain what the good days are like. You know them. Those days when living with diabetes is a breeze. All goes as planned. Everything is in synch. I cherish those days.
So think about it. Treat your diabetes like a partner. You might be surprised how close you really are 24/7.
Have a great day living and partnering with diabetes!